“It’s not my fault!” My son exclaimed to me on more occasions than I can honestly remember. While he was growing up he spent a good portion of his time denying that he had done something wrong, and when that didn’t work, well then he would blame his actions on me, his Dad, his friends, or upon anyone else he could think of at the time. Sometimes, he would be telling me the truth, and indeed whatever the offense was, it was not his fault. But, many, many times, the fault was his.
To some extent each of us try to shift the blame onto others. Why? Well perhaps we don’t want to get into trouble for something that we’ve done (or not done). Perhaps we feel defeated or depressed and we feel that we cannot improve our situation. Perhaps we’re really narcissistic and we believe that the world should and does revolve around ourselves. Perhaps it’s just easier to blame someone else because we can’t face the fact that we’re flawed. Perhaps we don’t know how to change our behavior. Or, maybe we simply don’t want to change our behavior for the better. Whatever the reason, I think that when we try to shift blame onto others we’re cheating ourselves, and the other person. They may never know whether you’re telling the truth when you try to shift the blame, but you know within yourself.
How many times do we try to shift the blame when dealing with God? I would venture that once in a while, we’ve all told God that whatever sin we’ve committed is not our fault. When we become God’s child, He places the Holy Spirit inside of us. The Holy Spirit works as a counselor to guide us in our everyday lives. If we listen to the still small voice of the Holy Spirit within us, we will grow, and we will be responsible, and we will reflect our Savior more. But, if we don’t listen to the Holy Spirit, we will begin to quench the Spirit, and our growth will become stagnant. Just like a muscle, we must continue to exercise in our walk with God.
So, if you think about it, when the fault for our sin lies within us it is rather pointless to try to blame our sins on others – especially because God knows all and sees all. When we accept responsibility for our sins, and come to God with our contrite heart, confessing and repenting of our sins, I believe that God will bless us.
“Nevertheless, I tell you the truth: it is to your advantage that I go away, for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you. But if I go, I will send him to you. And when he comes, he will convict the world concerning sin and righteousness and judgment” (John 16:7-8, ESV)
“Do not quench the Spirit.” (1 Thessalonians 5:19, ESV)
“And God, who knows the heart, bore witness to them, by giving them the Holy Spirit just as he did to us,” (Acts 15:8, ESV)
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9, ESV)