I know people whose first reaction when confronted with something that they’ve done wrong is to deny, deny, deny. Some of these same people will just outright lie and keep the charade going for a long time. And when finally confronted with the proof, they will change tactics to shifting the blame. Being involved with these people causes us to lose our trust in them. And, once trust is broken it’s extremely difficult, if not impossible, to gain trust back – at least it is for me.
Why do we want to lie and shift the blame for our actions? Perhaps we don’t want to accept responsibility for our own actions. Perhaps we don’t want others to think less of us. Perhaps we just want what we want and we’ll do anything to get that thing, but we don’t want to admit that. Perhaps we blame others for our actions because “they” made us angry. Perhaps we pass the blame because whatever the action we’ve done is commonly practiced by others around us – you know the mentality of if it’s ok for them to do, then it’s ok for us to do also. Oh so many times, I have been subject to each and everyone of these situations from various people in my life, and when it happens to me, I for one am disappointed, and in some cases more than disappointed.
And, in all honesty, in my life I too have done some of the very same actions. There’s been times that I didn’t want to accept responsibility for my actions. There’s been times that I didn’t want others to think less of me. There’s been times that I’ve barreled ahead in a plan that deep down I knew better than to do. There’s been times when I blame other’s behaviors for the reactions that I’ve displayed. And, yes there’s even been times that I’ve fallen in with the crowd. More so these kinds of behaviors were exhibited by me when I was a child, or young adult. But, for most of us, with age comes wisdom. While I’m far from perfect, I believe that I have suffered enough of the consequences that come with behavior like lying and shifting the blame, that I tend to accept responsibility more often than not.
Besides, it does us no good at all to try to hide these things from God, He sees all, He knows all. And while I don’t often like the consequences that comes with the errors of my way, I can look back and see just how God has used those times to continually shape me into the person that He’s destines me to become. When I accepted Jesus as my personal savior, He came into my heart. And, He placed the Holy Spirit within me to lead me and guide me in His way and His truth. I’m still learning to try to lean on the Holy Spirit and listen to what God tells me. And, that includes owning up to my shortcomings and confessing my outright sins to our Lord. Thank God, I’ve come a long way and I know that I have an even longer way to go.
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9, ESV)