– “You yourself are the only person that you can and ought to rely on…The sooner you come to accept this statement, the sooner you can begin to rely on yourself for all it is that you need from life.” Paul Hudson, Why You Should Never Depend on Anyone but Yourself, Elite Daily.
– “The day you decide not to depend on anyone but yourself is the day you decide to live your life.” Jovi Cassie, How to Never Depend on Anyone but Yourself, Gen Twenty
– “When it comes to happiness, self-reliance is key.” Jenna Buttrick, 8 Reasons why I Decided to Rely only on Myself for Happiness, Thought Catalog
– “The only person that will always be with you is you. If you depend on yourself for support, you will never be let down.” How to be Independent, WikiHow
That’s the kind of quotes that I found doing a quick online search, in less than two minutes I was greeted with the above “wisdom.” I contend that there’s good things and bad things about the internet. First the good thing: you can find out anything you want almost immediately as the result of a few keystrokes on Google, or another search engine. Then the bad thing: you can find out anything you want almost immediately as the result of a few keystrokes on Google, or another search engine. Wait, you say, didn’t I just make a mistake in the previous sentences? After all they both say the same thing. No! I did not make a mistake at all. The advent of the internet makes it super easy for anyone to find anything they want to know in no time flat. And, that means that you will find wise information, and you will find foolish information. You must be aware of your sources and you must always ask questions about just what you see on the internet.
Unless you are well-grounded in your faith, you’ll accept those “wise” statements listed above as something to which you should pay attention. Let’s examine those statements. They indicate that we don’t need others, because others will let us down. And, You can live your life without others. And, You will never let yourself down.
Now, since I can’t speak for you, I will address these statements from my perspective, and a Biblical perspective (supporting verses are below). These kinds of comments make me feel concerned, very sad, and sick to my stomach. In all of my years of experience I can attest that each and every one of those statements at the top of this post are false. I need others, I know that I cannot live my life without others, nor would I want to, there’s plenty of very sweet memories for me that involved others. And, for sure, I have disappointed myself and let myself down in the past.
What God wants you to do with your life, how He wants you to live your live, and the choices that you make will never, ever, ever disagree with what our guidebook, the Bible says. We were never, ever designed to live our lives alone. Each and everyone of us have a big gaping hole in our lives. Now, that hole can partially be filled with the loving relationships that we have with friends and family in our lives. But, there’s a bigger, deeper longing in the very core of our souls, and that can only be filled by God. And I assert that you cannot live life on your own, totally relying only on yourself, if you are a believer. This “isolation” idea, is a trap, and I contend that it’s a trap from the enemy. Get yourself to the point where you believe that you can do everything for yourself and you’ll be downtrodden in no time flat. You cannot defeat the enemy by yourself.
– And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him-a threefold cord is not quickly broken. (Ecclesiastes 4:12, ESV)
– For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” (Matthew 18:20, ESV)
Don’t fall for the traps of this world. Look to God, for as soon as you do, you will reclaim territory that you thought was forever lost to the enemy. You need God, and you need the support of other Godly believers. You are not designed to do life alone. You are designed to do life with God. And, I for one am very thankful.
– Thus says the LORD to you, ‘Do not be afraid and do not be dismayed at this great horde, for the battle is not yours but God’s. (2 Chronicles 20:15b, ESV)
– But now thus says the LORD, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. (Isaiah 43:1-2, ESV)
– fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:10, ESV)